Look, I'm not sure how we are on such different pages, and why I have to keep saying the same thing over and over and you keep interpretting it as something I am not saying.

I'm not invalidating any sexual preferences, I'm not defining any sexual bedroom behaviour as wrong and bad (when expressed in non-destructive ways). I'm not sure where you are coming from that you keep interpretting what I'm saying as that, other than perhaps because I even bothered to comment on your post in the first place - which incidentally had nothing to do with you personally but the phrase itself, which is said on reddit as reflexively as going to the gym or lawyers.

If you think being selfish and unaware and uncaring about your partner is a "sexual preference" than whatever.