It was absolutely shocking! But I'm embarrassed not to have remembered this in the original post -- didn't want to dox her as well -- but she's had some health issues that carry symptoms such as lack of concentration, memory problems, and even specifically irritability or depression but she was very very very adamant of having none of it, no concentration issues or emotional issues, she was still working and loving it! Yet by her description her health has been quite bad and she has cut back on her number of hours working as a last ditch effort to avoid hospitalization. Not remembering the time line of my life! having no memory of impactful and emotional conversations we had! for goodness sake, what a hassle! It was such an obvious contributor that it's hard to believe I didn't think of it. It's not that I don't appreciate and value you sharing your opinions of where to draw the personal line. It's hard to interpret and understand when someone suddenly does a 180 -- and they're not even quite aware of it and feel it is you who are different. I think and hope that instead of the worst case scenario, these were health issues. Sorry for not even having the slightest awareness of this when writing the original post. She explained her forgetfulness as "selfishness I guess, I mean I was pretty focused on my own issues, I was going through a lot, you can't blame me for not paying complete attention." That's why I was so offended! But how horrible maybe to not understand you are having mental symptoms -- people often don't. Anyway thank you for the input, it was valued greatly, what a shock this was!