I need some support and don’t know where to turn

I hate to do a checklist kind of response, but you say you're "consumed with fear" and the first step in those situations is always to touch base with reality. 1. You're still here with your wife and kids, there's time. 2. Your wife is awaiting biopsy confirmation. 3. You're already making your plans.

That said,

Set up that will. You need to specify inheritance and next of kin and executor. Trust the state, they cover the execution of the will to a tee.

Once that's done, there's nothing pressing to do. Be at peace with what's happening. You're tough, your wife's tough, your kids are statistically speaking also tough. Life never works out exactly how we want it, but we press on!

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