We need to teach our children about the dangers of hookup culture

Hookup culture is a result of sex positivity.

My issue with 'sex positivity' is that more often than not, it is not 'positive', it is peer pressure/wanting to fit in and/or using it as leverage to get what you want. For sex positive women, that is often the back door to a relationship by being a kinky cool girl. For men, it's a great way to use women like a flesh light and discard them after.

A truly sex positive experience would be both people fully wanting it (no alcohol, bad judgement, coercion, lying, withholding information) after talking about what they are looking for. A ONS, a FWB, short-term dating or long-term dating leading to a serious relationship? That, and even for 'sex positive' casual sex, there needs to be some rapport established, because you can't go around being sex positive having sex with randoms, it is just not safe. And the discussions need to continue during and after sex-- people need to know what they want, what they expect. Do you want him to go down on you? Make that CLEAR before having sex. Use your words.

I don't believe that 99% of so-called 'sex positive' people have this level of high sense of self, self-esteem, communication skills or boundaries. Most of them don't even use protection or get tested. Are STDs sex positive as well?

And yeah, when sex positivity degrades to straight up hookups, and one or both parties are addressing it as such-- this has potential to be a highly physically and emotionally dangerous position for women. Men do not give a fuck about women they are hooking up with. When hookup sex with randoms involves the potential of STDs, unwanted pregnancy, cancer from HPV, rape, assault, homicide, 'accidental' anal and/or being recorded and put on YouPorn without your consent-- it is not positive, it is dangerous.

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