I think that you've been given some good advice here, but if I was in your shoes I would personally feel overwhelmed by thinking six steps into the future. So I'll offer you an alternative approach.

You know, often at the beginning of the weekend I'm like, oh man I'm going to get so much done this weekend! And then somehow the time passes by and all of a sudden it's Sunday evening and I realize that of course I didn't do all the things I thought I would, and I start to get down on myself.

My technique: I ask myself what's the ONE THING that Monday Me is really going to wish that Sunday Me did? I usually find that amidst all the other things I've convinced myself I could or should do, there's usually one thing that I really wanted to get done.

So let's try that here, and let's think about the summer because I think it's a nice easy way to picture these things. If you picture Summer You, what's the ONE thing that you most want to see different from January You. Does Summer You go for a walk every day? Eat healthier? Have a new hobby that you've never tried before that will help you feel more interesting to others? Let's start there.

Then in summer, Summer You can think about Fall You, and then Winter You. Or maybe the seasons are too long - maybe right now you want to think about February You, and then in February you'll think about March You.

Whatever it is, pick one thing at a time and work on that, and then once you've got that one thing in a good place, start working on the next one thing. This is a slow process, for sure, but it took you 20 years to build the person that you are right now, so don't expect to completely rebuild yourself overnight.