Neutralized as German three years ago but still I don't belong

I agree with this, but the way I did understand OPs post was that he rather is "sad" that he actually is not born German.

Like, I'm ftm-trans*, I get read as male by society now but I do know I'm not actually born male. I'm gay, I'm a high functioning autist...

Now I have 2 options: live as who I am and accept who I am and what my background is or maybe be "sad" enough about not having been born male or NT and basically ruin my mood over it, even worse when I then start to explain everything negative happening to me with this.

Like sometimes people maybe just reject me because they don't like me or because I've been an asshole and not because I'm trans*, even though this kind of thinking might make my life a lot easier, since never anything would be "my fault" anymore.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to pretend discrimination and prejudice wouldn't exist. I've been facing a fair amount of that myself, but but at the same time I've met enough people in my life that often are trigger happy to put "blame" for anything bad or negative on other people and always finding excuses, why they **never** do anything wrong. It makes life super easy and you never have to change anything.

Funny enough, for some people that approach is even working, but that doesn't mean it would work for everyone.

Disclaimer:

Not saying OP would be like that, just generally speaking.

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