Thank you for your reply, but I think you may have misunderstood some of my post. Or I may have not been clear enough, not wanting to "talk bad" about my husband. Even online, anonymously. My husband struggles with her, he's said so himself directly. He feels angry when she fusses, and needs to "tap out" within minutes. I give him the chance to bond with her every day, but he gets insanely frustrated quickly, and wants to give her back or call on my in-laws laws for help.

On top of the fact that she often screams the moment I leave the room. And she refuses to let him feed her, then he gets frustrated, tried to force the bottle on her, which further exacerbates her aversion to him. We've talked about it to death. I've explained exactly what is going on with her and how to care for her. Over and over again. I will tell him in the moment why she's crying and what to do to fix it, and he still gets frustrated.

He's openly admitted that he is struggling way more with this than he thought he would. He was so excited to have a baby, and sometimes he's left feeling like we made a mistake. I don't feel that way. So it's been an ongoing issue. He doesn't want me to leave her with him, he doesn't feel like he can handle it without help. And then because he doesn't feel safe, I don't feel safe. That's my baby girl and he doesn't trust himself, how I can trust him? I'm anxious enough as it is, having my baby cry till she vomits only makes it worse.

So trust me, this isn't an issue of a wife who refuses to let a husband help. I've begged him to help, told him I need help, and told him in plain language exactly what I need. It's getting better, but the bulk of it all still falls on me.