Thank you for your response. The family dynamics are all over the place, so yes the post doesn't entirely make sense. It is her who has been bugging me to meet with her, but she tends to cut my dad out of everything she can.
I'm 19, in college, live with my boyfriend and have a job. My twin dropped out of college after one semester and moved in with my sister and spends all his time drawing. My next older siblings is 23 with a bachelor's in nuclear engineering but won't work a job and moved in with my sister. After that I have a 24 year old sister, just graduated law school and got a job, moved in with my sister. Oldest sister is 25, autistic, masters in stats and my mom moved in with her the moment my brother dropped out and she no longer needed to mooch of my father. Over the years she's stolen hundreds of thousands of dollars from him, either because she's a shopping addict, squirrelled it away for herself, spent it on a lawyer to divorce him in 2007 (the case was dismissed with prejudice because my parents have never been married, and have always filed taxes as single. She just wanted half his assets).
I am, more or less, content to go NC and not bother with them. My father however still wants a relationship with his CNN olden, and tried very hard to get through to them. Two years ago he bought my brother a brand new 2014 corolla when he graduated college because my mom said he "needed a car." He makes payments on school loans and has set up an IRA for him and my oldest sister, and he does all of this thanklessly while they call him sexist, racist, an abuser, psychopath, and won't let him into the house and refer to him as "Himself." My mom has insisted for years, over a decade now, that he is a deadbeat dad who never wanted and of us and doesn't want to take care of us but the facts just don't support that. My oldest sister even refers to him as a "sperm donor."
My mid older sister, at the encouragement of my mom, and we found proof in the garage of the house that my oldest sister did this as well, edited her school invoice papers so that my dad would give her $3000+ extra money every semester for tuition. How they convinced him to put the money on her accounts instead of paying to the school I have no idea, but if you even go online and check the tuition rates and look at the documents my dad was sent, it's absurd. My sister hasn't spoken to my dad since he confronted her with these documents, and he didn't know until now that she was probably defrauding him like that at the encouragement of our mom. It's all very messed up.
I don't doubt that I'll end up NC with my mom, though I'm comfortable talking with my twin. My contact with my other siblings I am unsure about. But my dad would like to mend his relationships with his kids as we've been able to do together, but I've always been very different from my siblings and I don't see them coming around.
My mom still enrages me though.