Same here. Someone I thought was a best friend since hs clearly expressed their views through their actions that they werent. Were both 32 now. I dropped him.
Wanna know why? you can only take so much from someone emotionally and physically before they say to hell with you.
This guy friend never was there for me. If I sent a message saying hi how are things/lets meet up etc. They literally ignore it because they are having a blast with online friends or making new friends. His mom was confused and thought we were supposed to be best friends but he clearly didnt see it that way.
He always was passive aggressive, shitting on my parades, never wanted to hang out when I gave him and his SO a place to live and get there shit together before leaving, he damaged my property (gave him the biggest bedroom in my house which is in the basement, he wasnt satisfied and literally tore drywall in my basement down which connected to ajoining smaller room since he wanted MORE space. Me: "are you fucking kidding me?" he said he would fix it but never did.
I gave him so many chances to redeem himself. Thinking maybe he will change and grow, become a better person. Nope.
Once he and his SO got their warehouse signon bonus from amazon after living here nearly 8 months they booked it. Didn't even pay rent the last month they were here and of course you guessed it! never on time. Left the drywall damaged. Also stole my PS VITA, a fire tablet which had precious photo memories on it from the early 2010s, a thumb drive with photos of my college memories, and a 5TB external drive I used for games. God knows what else I haven't discovered missing yet.
He also brought over strangers without introducing them. Just treating me like a landlord.
He's banned for life from my property. I'd rather live on my own with my dog then with crappy so-called friends.
Its mentally scarring. I want so badly to be able to trust people but if you can't trust someone you've known for 17 + years who can you trust?
I wish it was easy to make new friends and eventually a new real bestie. One I can trust. At this point in time in my 30s though? its tough.