Mate it’s up to you, you can keep trying or you can take a break. But you’re both wayyy too young still, like you’re both at that age where there’s a lot of chemicals changes happening in your brain, especially hers. She seems very immature and unstable, def has some growing up to do. I had a break up that helped me grow up, and realize how I was treating my ex just like she treats you and how horrible I was and he didn’t deserve that. I realized 2yrs later, how horrible I was to him, and that’s never okay, and it’s unhealthy and to never do that again. But in at the time of the relationship I had no idea how horrible I was to him, or how toxic I was making the relationship be, and this was my first love who I knew loved me and would put up with it all. Until he didn’t. And that’s what I needed tbh. I needed to be set free from that relationship to find myself and learn to love myself and be happy on my own and find my career path, etc. before I can be happy with someone else. I’m so glad he did that. And he told me too, he knew I wasn’t happy and that I needed to find it outside of him bc it wasn’t happening with him, we tried and tried. Love isn’t enough sometimes.

That’s my advice anyways.

Some relationships are just a lesson to be better for the next person. We grow and we learn.

Your relationship sounds very toxic. What’s worse is it seems like you’re neglecting yourself for her. You’re not gonna fix her. It’s gonna take her years to grow up from the way she’s behaving. You sticking around enabling it isn’t helping her or yourself. Maybe you can revisit this relationship in a few years but my advice is def break it off. Like you said, you both have been considering it. And your post is mostly all cons. So it sounds like yk what you wanna do.