mine solely broke up with me. she sent two texts after the call, one apologizing (in a seemingly human, regretful tone) and then one that coldly laid out a bunch of non-reasons for the break up.

For a month I sent periodic texts and emails but never heard back. I didn’t call her or show up at her door; whenever I started to dial I realized I would be calling her so she could apologize to me. I’m not gonna act like I was made of steel BUT when I found this place and connected the dots on her mental health I went from “I hope she’s gonna call” to “man I hope she marries this guy she moved onto” very quickly. I looked at her social media exactly once after the break up and it set me back weeks. No contact means doing everything you can to see that ‘person’ as dead. Don’t stuff feelings down but don’t allow any thoughts to be constructive when it comes to them.

Ask yourself what it is internally that makes you want to hear from her. It’s been over two months and I think about her all the time. But I don’t want to date her again and know seeing her would set me back two months. THE PERSON YOU SEEK NEVER EXISTED. only when you stop messaging them, looking at their pictures or social media, will you allow yourself to focus on real humans again.