It sounds like people around you don’t know your pain at all. I think unless a person has been through it, they’re not going to grasp how very painful and lonely it is at first. Is there someone you can open up with? Or does that make it worse? When people act like it’s just another breakup and you’ll get over it- that sounds really dismissive. I’m sure they mean to sound positive and give you a boost but instead it just sounds callous. For many people, a divorce or breakup from someone significant can feel like a death - there’s intense grief - an intense sense of loss, sadness- many times a feeling of having failed on top of everything else. The future is uncertain. There can be fear of being alone forever. These are some of the most intense feelings a person will ever experience. I hope you find a friend that understands.