No one owes you sex

When you enter into a monogamous relationship there is an implicit understanding that sex will be part of it. And it there comes a time when one partner does not want sex, the agreement that trades monogamy for sex with only one partner has been broken. And it is perfectly reasonable for the partner wanting sex to fully and honestly express their needs and if the other partner does not want sex, it so fine for the relationship to end or to open it up for the partner needing sex. What’s not ok is to put the needs of the partner not wanting sex ahead of the needs of the partner wanting it.

Said another way is both partners have a right to choice and autonomy. You put all the emphasis on the “bodily autonomy” of one partner and ignore the needs of the other.

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