Not sure if this is a rant or me asking for advice... I just need to be heard.

I've been there and you have my sincerest sympathies. I too just hated how much I had come to rely on my wife for talk and comfort, only to find that she was the one making my life so hard.

I had let so much go by without questioning her about it that it felt like even more of a betrayal when I could no longer ignore it.

One thing I would say is do not take the burden of reconciliation fully on yourself. I have tried to do that in the past and it becomes incredibly difficult and only wrecks someone emotionally all the more. Your wife has to be the one to take on the bulk of the emotional work and do all the heavy lifting if you two are going to be together.

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