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Just because this article, literally, is to hilarious to be true I want to pile on some more. I mean, this article isn't actually real right? How could you have this many quotable things?
They become poster children for sexual politics. And with their crusade often comes a weird social life: They're out there fighting the good fight, but do they also get to hook up like normal college students?
You mean with regrets you don't get to make up as a sexual assault the next day when he doesn't call, with mistakes and a horrible sexual experience because you got drunk and beer goggled the wrong person, where people exploring their sexuality and accidentally hurt someone with no intention of ill will? That kind of normal hooking up? Where mistakes are made and people take personal responsibility for it?
You mean when your story is:
"I didn't know how—when I looked at the university resources, it seemed so complicated and in favor of supposed perpetrators."
Because you couldn't manage to find 9-1-1 on your phone and wandered around the university's resource book looking for something to help you that the police were incapable of?
That your first thought was to file a civil Title IX case against the most liberal university on the planet because they just didn't have the resources a, you know, police department might have? People with guns and motivation to solve problems like this?
I know when I'm assaulted, a federal lawsuit is the first thing I spend months doing, rather than try and have a rape kit made and catch the violent criminals. Because one's incredibly useful Sociology degree won't make much money on the outside since it is completely useless.
They allege that when they went to the university for help, administrators frequently discouraged them from formally reporting their assaults, neglected to keep them informed about the investigative process and failed to punish their assailants.
I'm not sure I'd trust sex with a girl who doesn't know how to dial 3 numbers, to people who know how to handle criminals when a crime has been committed.
Warner says that her sorority’s leaders accused her of getting too drunk at the party and acting in a manner that brought shame upon their sorority house, dissuading her from going to authorities.
So it was the fault of women you didn't get the help you needed?
because I was not expecting that from a university with a progressive reputation, which I thought would be willing to help me.
They would help you find your classes, something to do with dorm issues, pay tuition, student loan information, and parking. Probably not so good at launching an investigation into sexual assault. But then I'm not educated at Berkeley, perhaps that's the proper concern when you're a victim, which is to blame the wrong institution. "WHY WON'T YOU EXPEL PEOPLE BASED ON ACCUSATION?"
Why are you then mad when guys you want to date try to prevent you being sexually assaulted?
Because you make both these quotes:
"I want to be the modern Gloria Steinem—spreading the necessity for consent and justice,"
and
"I was in a rage. He was a total fuckboy about consent," she said.
And you wonder why you have a minor social dating issue? I know guys are all stupid, but what do you think they think of when they read things like this? Forget boner-killer, I want a lawyer on speed dial.
Because when you say:
"I wish I hadn't been so worried about what other people thought. Strength in the face of insecurity will always prevail."
What you really mean is that you really care what people think when they say "Actually, I'm really not OK with how you just assume I'm a bad guy. And I get very bad vibes from that, so we shouldn't hang out anymore.'" Because apparently you do care what people think of you, and are upset that your actions have consequences?
Stupid guys, trying to support a rape crisis advocate by letting them know that they don't think or act the way she assumes rapists do, but stupid guys they just won't stick it in.
"Nobody ever explicitly said, 'Oh you're a survivor, we can't date,'" she told me. "But they'd assume that I was just doing this for attention, or more frequently they didn't want to deal with it. It was too much. They assumed I'd have a lot of needs
Actually the guy has a lot of needs, presumably a signed consent form, full video footage of the even, and two forms of identification as part of your yes-means-yes affirmative consent law you're pushed to be adopted, which moves the burden of proving innocence to the accused, to the point legal analysts are writing scathing responses to this law and the legal problems with it.
"When people know of me but they don't really know the work, they hear the term 'feminist' or 'sexual-violence prevention,' they think, 'super-extreme, bra-burning feminism,'" she explains, which often puts people on the defensive.
No they think someone who is wanting to feather their sexual violence nest with more headlines. It isn't about bra-burning lady, no one thinks you're fighting the fight to be considered for promotions at work, they think you're desperate to find a big event to exploit. It's not that you would, its that a whole lot of others have. So sticking your dick in politically minded crazy exploitive girl doesn't immediately come up as the first move.
"Honestly, even if they're supportive, even if they say all the right things, and really want to discuss my job, it makes me feel weird about hooking up with them," [snip] "It's like, 'Oh, we were just talking about rape, and now we're going to hook up.' It's just weird."
It's weird? Lady you brought it up in the first place when you said not to get creepy and you know the Sherriff. Good for you for setting boundaries. We met on Tinder for a hookup for God's sake. I'm so happy I could google you on my phone before this went south. Maybe if you put all this nonsense on your Tinder profile and were honest about who you are, perhaps I could have prepared for this a bit more before I decided to swipe on you.
There was one time, one guy, knowing what I did and what I talked about, he made consent part of foreplay," she recalls. "You know, very intentionally asking, 'Is this okay? Is this okay?' It was cute. It was great."
Well done. Good way to lull him into the trap so you can get that book deal after graduation. I appreciate your creativeness.