I mean I don't like furry armpits much (as a teenage guy myself, I received comments like "holy shit you've got a forest under there!", and have trimmed my pits to around a millimeter ever since, having hair just feels a little gross); but it's not really something I'm going to judge a woman on, by itself, to the exclusion of whatever her other qualities are. I had one girlfriend who didn't shave her pits or legs, and I felt like, eh, ok, we agree to disagree, but mostly we're on the same page about shit... same with girlfriends being overweight, within reason...

but when you have a woman who doesn't shave her pits at all AND is overweight to the point that it's ... dammit, let's just say that a majority of people of either sex would agree that it's somewhat unpleasant to look at... and then her friend says this is the perfection (!!) of womanhood (!!?!?)...

at this point it's not just a difference of opinion or ideology, it's not just people saying "this looks fine and beautiful too", but the perfection of womanhood???...

by now it's like this is so clearly a display of ...something vulnerable and pitiable, not just an alternative opinion... and I feel bad for them on multiple levels, like for where they are as individuals, and for the fact that they're displaying it to the world with no apparent recognition of how they appear to the entire rest of the world outside of their tiny niche...

I mean for people who have unique problems and are very vulnerable, I am a huuuge advocate of forming niche communities to support each other, to help each other find ways of coping and healing themselves and each other... and even if it's a matter of having a different aesthetic viewpoint (say, women with hair on their legs and pits are beautiful, or women a bit overweight are beautiful), good for them, I'm in favor of them having communities for themselves...

but this is just such a wholehearted display of a serious body dysmorphic perception of body image, to the extent that they believe the rest of the world should see it the same way (!), that I just feel sad and wish people would keep a bit of distance and not disturb or interact with them. If anyone disagrees with their viewpoint, they're going to respond to it very dysfunctionally; it's not like they're ever going to be in a position to take a step back, re-examine their own beliefs, and possibly change them. That requires a level of stability and openness which is utterly out of the world that people like that exist within. Challenges to them will only strengthen their sense of certainty and "us against the world" defensiveness.