NOTE TO SELF: You don’t have to forgive your abusers. Ever.

Absolutely right. I thought I had to forgive everyone, but turned out it was from codependecy. I wasnt forgiving them for me, I was still hurt, I was forgiving them for them, to make them feel better. But fuck that. Ive had two abusers. The last made me feel like an awful person for being angry with them. He told me how he himself was above anger (though from the outside he had massive anger issues). I think the abuser makes you feel wrong about feeling negative about the abuse. No You dont have to forgive. You dont have to understand either (this is a big one for me because I need to understand why he does it, but there is no good answer. Only selfisness, apathy and narcissism.

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