Well, honestly, as someone born on the other side, the reason for this is because taking care of your appearance gets you shunned by everyone around you.

I'm not gay, but because I'm emotional, I have good hygiene, and I wanna look colorful and attractive, literally everyone assumes I am gay. (Like my dad calls and threatens to disown me once a week unless I promise him I'm not gay, which, luckily for me, I'm not)

But people also don't like to give me the time of day and I've been called a simp by countless other men. And women only get close to me because they see me as the "safe, gay friend" instead of a potential partner.

So imagine that all of these men believe they can't change anything about themselves. The only other option they have is to attack women.

I am not telling you to pity them, I am just trying to explain why it happens the way it does