Have you noticed if there is something that you’d like to do, the narc will always drag their feet and resist?

My nBIL would just on a whim decide to move, or buy a new car, or whatever. Once moved across the country to a place neither of them had ever been with less forethought than most people would put into planning a vacation that far away. During the housing boom, before they had kids, he decided he wanted the house "he deserved" and in the space of like a month moved from their one bedroom apartment to buying a five bedroom house. None of this ever really lasted because they couldn't afford it, really shot his credit to hell.

When SIL was pregnant the first time, they were back in a small apartment. They'd been smart with their money the past few years so they could afford to move to at least a slightly bigger apartment to have room for the new baby. She wanted to move, and they really needed to move, and they could afford it. They stayed in that single bedroom apartment until after my nephew turned 2 because nBIL just didn't feel like it was the right time to move.

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