[NSFW?] I told my girlfriend I watched porn recently, she's angry, what do I do?

If you want to quit watching porn then quit watching porn. If you don't want to quit then you need to have more discussion with the girlfriend.

my girlfriend has told me that I don't need porn if I have her (We've been dating for 8 months)

Everyone has a different take on porn, but one thing is for certain: porn is completely different from a girlfriend. There is absolutely no emotional or physical connection with porn. Porn's one primary purpose is to sexually arouse you at any given time you choose. That is not the purpose of a girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/husband/etc. That is porn's primary purpose, but it has other purposes: you can watch shit that you don't actually want to do in real life, it can be funny, it can be something that couples do together.

When your girlfriend says "now that you have me you don't need porn", to me she is suggesting that she can take porn's place. She probably cannot. I don't know a single woman who would be at their boyfriend's immediate disposal whenever the man wants to rub one out. Imagine just walking into the room at any time you choose and telling her to shove something in herself while you watch and jerk off. Or telling her you want to see her take a few dicks at the same time while you jerk it. Or you want her to do some bukkake/facial/swallowing/whatever. Or you want her to lick some pussy while you watch. Or some ass to mouth. Or whatever. No, not happening. Firstly, she's a human being with her own sexual personality, not an on-demand sex toy. Secondly, you love and respect her and don't want her doing most of the things you just get a kick out of seeing in a video.

So, no, your girlfriend can't take the place of porn, and porn can never take the place of a girlfriend - actual emotional and physical connection. I think a lot of women just cannot grasp this concept. I also think a lot of men get out of control with their porn use.

Lastly, and just as important as anything else, if you want to use porn, do not be ashamed of that. There is nothing wrong with it. But agreement about porn use in the relationship is necessary. You should not have to hide it or lie about it. Either your girlfriend needs to understand, or you need to change your ways, or you need to find a new girlfriend.

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