Off-topic thread Apr. 6-12

I had a falling out with my best friend of 10 years a week ago, there were no signs for me at all.

She sent me an essay the night after we had caught up (everything was pretty normal that night) basically saying that I've said things that hurt her in the past and this year she wants a change, and our friendship has been on her mind a lot. She told me that she doesn't want me to change, and she's saying all this over text because she's scared of telling me in person, and that has been a recurring theme over the past year.

She's been dealing with anxiety and depression for a few years now, which I feel out contributes to this, and I always try to be understanding when she is going through episodes.

I sent back an essay being very apologetic and vulnerable, at least for me. She said that she doesn't want to reply to all that right not, and basically insists that we can't talk about this over a phone call or in person because she's scared of me, and that it's good for us to have some time apart and reflect. She said we should see each other in 4 months time. There was a bit of back and forth because I just don't think not seeing each other for that long is good for either of us, and at the end she said let's see each other in one or two months time, and asked if that made me feel better. I don't know if it's just me, but I just can't toy with that idea, especially because she never mentioned that she wants to make this friendship work after time, it was more just "let's talk then". In the end, I told her that she can spend the time doing what she wants to do, and I'll do the same, and we'll let things take its course as time goes, and that we shouldn't continue messaging. I was feeling angry and sad by this point, and had mentally accepted that it has come to an end. She blew up at me and said that this is why she can't talk to me, it's always my way or the highway, etc. I didn't reply the message and blocked her, because I just hate how the messages are escalating, and the way I feel when I read them.

That's pretty much where we are at right now, in my head, I'm going to be trying to get over this over the next few weeks or months. I'm also very worried about her at the same time, because I don't want her mental health to take a toll because of this, but obviously she's chosen to push me out so I also feel like there's nothing much I can do. I know that she has a cousin overseas that she's very close with, and that's who she speaks to the most about her mental wellbeing besides me.

Sorry about the essay, I didn't realise how much has been going on until I started typing it out, and I guess I just want to know everyone's opinions on this, because people on this sub are generally very knowledgeable when it comes to difficult life situations like this it seems.

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