She said she felt tired and wanted to stay in instead of going out that Friday (over text). I responded by saying it was okay and that she sounded like she needed her rest. She thanked me and I decided to break our texting pattern by not texting her until the end of the day (up until then we were constantly texting each other), where I asked her how her day was, and that if she needed time off to rest and get past her hectic schedule that I was in support of that.

No response from her until the next day, where she told me that she could tell by my lack of texting that I was down on her canceling (I admittedly was) and she felt uncomfortable as a result. I tried apologizing by saying I was sorry if I made her feel that way, that I didn’t realize I was pushing her too much, and that we should discuss what an appropriate “dating pace” would be for both of us so that expectations were clear. She decided to call it off however.

There’s more there, and I don’t think she’s totally wrong - after so many failures in online dating, I assume the worst when someone seems to lose interest in me and I go into self defense mode to avoid further disappointment. This was an instance though where I opened up and admitted to her this fact, and she seemed understanding enough of it beforehand that I just really wish we could have talked it out. If I knew she felt that way I would have slowed my role and respected the pace at which she wanted to move. Maybe I just have too many problems and don’t really have any business being in a relationship in the foreseeable future, as was told to me by another subreddit (that tore me to shreds) when I ran this by them.