Oh boy, here I go killing again

Wait do you think swiping every person is increasing your chances?

You're not the only "genius" here doing this, every guy who does the desperation tactic of swiping everyone is exactly why women get TONS of matches and likes and men don't.

So of COURSE every woman who has to sift through hundreds of messages/likes/matches/whatever is going to be choosy and you are only going to get 1 message compared to the 100s you've been sending.

I had a friend once who was really down and out about being lonely and wanting a girlfriend. He had a hard time meeting people in real life so he would use dating sites like OKCupid and the like.

He told me about how every day he wouldnt get anything, or occasionally get a reply, after sending messages as much as he possibly can. So I asked him if I could look at his profile and I gave him some tips and stuff because I wanted him to be happy and meet someone nice.

His page was pretty bad, he was really specific about books he liked, or specific bands he liked, and he tried using a lot of unusual words maybe to show off how "smart" he is. I helped him make his profile a bit more friendly, I helped him take some better photos, and helped him choose the ones that looked the most interesting and whatnot.

A week after all that I asked him how it was going and all he did was complain and he was especially mad about something. He told me he made a female profile and was pissed off about how "easy it is" for women on dating sites "I didnt even do anything and look at all these messages I got every day!!"

And then I realized that this guy was just crazy. He was jealous of all of these messages and he was jealous of women for having so many options but he simply couldn't see WHY this explained the lack of messages he would get. WHY its a bad thing to have to sift through tons and tons of messages if you are seriously trying to create some sort of relationship or friendship as a woman on one of those sites.

He couldn't understand how he was absolutely not treating any of these people he was messaging special. They didn't mean anything to him, he didn't find them interesting. He was just SPAMMING people with no thoughts or feelings, and so were HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS of other people doing the same thing -- AND HE WAS SURPRISED THAT PEOPLE WOULD RARELY RESPOND TO HIM. He just could not look at this female profile he made "for an experiment" and understand how and why what he had in his inbox was an actual issue for him and for women.

So don't be surprised that the spam swiping, spam messaging, yeilds to really shitty results because you and 100 other dudes are shoving your dicks in someones face. It's a little overwhelming, don't you think?

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