Is it okay to ask a single poly to try monogamy if the relationship is new?

My love for my family members and friends is unique and my feelings with those individuals is different. Those relationships are not the same and I wouldn't want to try to replicate them. Having a partner makes sense, and flirting and looking at other people is fine because you're human, but why need to have another girlfriend or boyfriend and date and sleep with someone while being with me? Whats the point? Why not just date around? Its like having a best friend, that relationship is stronger than that of other friends. I wouldn't want more than one best friend or mom etc, etc. With swingers and those in open relationships they know they aren't mono by nature, but they love their partner. I'm not saying polys don't love their partners, but from my research it seems like they don't often make sacrifices mono's are expected to. I don't want to be judgmental and I think in time I can feel neutral about poly before I met this man I couldn't care less about other peoples sex lives. It feels like an excuse if someone hasn't even started to date someone else, how would he know I wasn't enough for him? I don't understand how a man can be in love with Sally while wanting to pursue a relationship with Beth.

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