Think about the person you want to be.
Think of all the changes you need to make to become that person in terms of habits (good and bad). Smoking, flossing, exercise, learning programming, soda, etc...
Use a habit tracker app and add these. At the end of each day, check off whatever occurred that day.
As you see patterns emerge, think about optimizing your routine and setting yourself up for success.
I recommend reading or listening about topics like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), emotional intelligence, learning, habits, sleep.
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My view:
I got into weed later in life after I had struggled with video game addiction my whole life. It's easy to escape when uncomfortable. For this reason it's harder to get through the struggle of learning something new. You get to the hard part and give up, you think you're not cut out for xyz. Turns out that learning is much easier when you're comfortable with being uncomfortable. Focus on process, not product.
This all may seem unrelated but you need things that bring you up naturally. Things you can mentally 'savor' whenever you need a pick me up.
I found that the first high of the day was always best, and that smoking all day is not enjoyable. I didn't like zombie mode where you watch your life fly by and have nothing to show for it. It's really easy to progress from flower to concentrate, to dabs, etc. You need more and more but that cough gets worse and the wallet gets thinner.
I started with only smoking at the end of the day, then only smoking on weekends if at all. I found it was easier as I realized the depression symptoms were a normal part of withdrawals rather than , "I can't live without it, what is wrong with me". Getting used to 'quiting' on the weekdays made it easier to get to where I am now - using on special occasions or to treat nausea/pain.
CBT and emotional intelligence give you the tools you need to not let your emotions put you in a position where you feel like weed is the only answer.
Sorry, this is a big ol rant, hopefully it rings true to someone out there. I've had a lot of success since I decided to work on transforming myself and I found that cutting the weed was just part of the answer.