For me. I've never been ugly, but my inner confidence was low. I got laid here and there, but it was never with a purpose; always just the natural flow.
By 21, I got married. I was married for 8 years. I was in a blue pill fantasy land up until that point. When my perfect little life came crashing down, I became intensely selfish. Still blue-pilled, but now with a purpose.
The purpose was: Make up for lost time, fuck as many girls as I can. I started absorbing pickup artist material. I started joining message boards for PUAs, read probably 30+ books on pickup artistry, and game.
At some point or another, I got red pilled. In my mind, the red pill was like all of my pickup artist philosophy, but deeper. It's all the same material, just on another level of introspection. When I first swallowed the red pill, my sex numbers went up very quickly.
Then, something strange happened: my numbers actually went down, and it was by choice. I realized that I was focusing on all the wrong things. I was living for the purpose of fucking women, and it wasn't getting me anywhere. Just new problems with new girls all the time.
Since really understanding the red pill, my numbers have dwindled in the best way possible. I don't care about fucking girls. I don't care if a girl is a 2 or a 10; they get treated exactly the same. My level of give-a-fuck when talking to a super hot girl is exactly 0. Outcome independence is probably one of the most relieving things I've ever experienced.
Used to, when I was practicing pickup artistry, I would absolutely walk away from a 10 if it wasn't getting anywhere; but i would still TRY for the 10. And after walking away, I would frustrate myself over the best methodology to get the next 10 I come across. It was absolutely realistic, but I still had an internal frustration.
Now, with the red pill, I couldn't give a shit. I don't try even a little. Classic PUA "game" has been completely abandoned. Now, with the red pill, game is on a new level: Comfort in lesser numbers, the benefit of not giving a fuck, and best of all: when I do fuck a girl, it's with a girl who's completely and totally down with my personality, who I'll give the time of day.
The quantity of females went down exponentially, and the quality of females went up exponentially. Now, finally, when I do fuck some girl, it's with a girl I can "vibe" with completely and totally. During the PUA days, I was fucking girls I hated. Now, with the red pill, I fuck girls I respect.
And the best part. When I have a dry spell: It doesn't bother me. I don't even think about it anymore.
I never had an "anger phase" during the red pill. I've never held female nature against females. They can't change their nature as much as I can't change mine. So when I do fuck a girl, a girl I genuinely respect, I know her female nature. AWALT = it' a good thing.
The one thing I still do mostly for females, and little for myself: lifting. I enjoy lifting, I enjoy how it makes me look, it's all great. But my ultimate goal has never been to be stronger, or be healthy. The goal has always been, and probably always will be, to be more attractive to females. The Red Pill says to lift for yourself. And of course that's true; I just haven't found that within me. Lifting is still for females.