First, the girl wasn't raped in my example

I was trying to point out that judging a person a rapist because of the way thet portray themselves, however distasteful that may be (bragging about banging a drunk girl) with nothing more then the bragging is no different then judging a girl a slut because of the way she is dressed.

A confession is an admission of guilt, not some guy bragging, but otherwise I would totally agree that if I were to hear some bro bragging about banging a drunk girl I would also think this guy is no one to be around. I would prob even think that it's a rapist thing to say. I'm not defending this hypothetical guy, I'm merely trying to point out that either of us overhearing him bragging about that, and coming away with the opinion that he sounds like a rapist, is the same logic that when applied to a woman dressed promiscuously results in her being labeled a slut. The difference is the one labeled rapist is somehow indicative of his whole gender and generates a shit storm of anger over his comments (and I would think rightfully so) but the one labeled slut is defended as an individual who is free to make her own choices.

So my question is then why when using the same (flawed) logic is it seen as an assault on this woman where the man is somehow representative of all men? We have just as much "evidence" of either label, yet one gender gets to call the individual a victim while the other in it's entirety are defamed as rapists.

I'm 100% for calling this guy out for conducting himself as a disgusting individual, and hey call him a rapist if you like, but to use this individual who made the choice for himself to act so reprehensibly, as an example by which to judge all men is itself as ugly a way to conduct yourself as the guy bragging about rape.

We may never agree on the details, but I think if you would go beyond painting half the population with a broad brush, you may find that there is a ton of common ground to be had, and people that would happily work to end sexual assault and rape regardless of what gender falls victim.

I hope that you don't come away from our exchange with the idea that I am defending rape, because that's not what I'm trying to portray at all. I just think the cause of rape prevention is better served by moving past broad generalizations, and with both genders working as partners to end sexual violence against everyone.