One ex is now serving fried chicken, another is a doctor

I can certainly imagine ATC is highly stressful. It sounds like you have a great job and should be proud, if writing even "mundane" firmware was easy, the pay would reflect that. Most importantly, you seem relatively content with your job, and are earning a good living. There are some partners who don't think about the effects jobs have on your wellbeing and health. They only see your employment as it affects themselves, in terms of money, status, etc. These people will take and take until you have nothing left to give. I have seen incredibly hard working men netting 200k+, coming home from a 12 hour day to an ungrateful wife explaining to them how to ask for a raise... while having no idea about market value, pay scales, the company's finances. So yes, I'd say your experience is not uncommon. Stick with the good and loyal people who do care about your happiness and wellbeing, as rare as they may be.

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