It’s not about them... it’s about you

I know that. But it doesn’t really matter, it’s still a positive for us both.

You don’t have to be what they “want/need” you to be. Be you. Be real. Be genuine.

That’s what I’m saying. There is no “me”

Because “me” is detached. I feel no sense of self, I am what I am at the time and that changes based on what I want, who I’m with and what I want them to feel, whether that’s positive or negative, safe or afraid.

If I think about who I am at my core, there’s nothing there. Who am is based on who I’m around, even to myself.

This why I always assume people here are liars, either that or I’ve got something that’s not sociopathy going on. So many people here are so attached to their sense of self, to who they are.

Yet they still claim they don’t feel anything negative. How do they not feel dissonance from this? I don’t understand.

When I’m not being someone else, there’s not much there. I detach from the situation, it’s like I’m watching things through someone else’s eyes and I’ll just be silent, content with just observing.

So really, there is no “real” me.

At most my thoughts, reasoning, likes/dislikes is me, but they’re just facts about me and without the act will never give a regular person the impression that there’s something more there.

So I can’t see been honest working, unless the person is OK to accept that who I present to them is only me because of them.