So, let's get this clear, you two broke up, and then made up, and during this break up he had sex with another woman, and got her pregnant. She has now done the mature and decent thing, informed him of the child's existence, but stated she needs nothing from him at all, and you are both making her pregnancy all about him and you. Wow.

Am I right to think he's gone to a lawyer to try to force her to have an abortion?? Are you freekin kidding me right now? I can see the point of asking her to sign a document confirming she will not make a later bid to claim child support if he's really not willing to own up to the responsibilities involved with having sex, but otherwise, let's be clear, unless she's asking for child support or to Co parent her pregnancy has no impact on you.

If you were broken up when he had sex with her, he did not in any way betray you. That's what happens when you break up with someone. You release them from any commitment to monogamy.

The only way this might impact you, is if the fact he is not willing to take responsibility for his actions by providing child support (as he should), and that makes you look at him differently. Otherwise, there is no reason for you to be upset by this.

Get over yourselves. This woman isn't asking for anything from you. She has been mature enough to recognise that keeping the child is her sole responsibility, she's has freed him from all responsibility. You don't get a say in her decision.