Why is that one person no longer your friend?

Well let's see, I have lots of friends that I have just lost touch with and whatnot but losing my oldest and best friend sucks the most.

We have been friends since grade school and she was my most loyal and trusted friend, she had a rough childhood, she got in fights with other girls and was always dragging me along to meet boys. She was stubborn and hot tempered and whenever she got hurt emotionally she wouldnt cry, she would get horribly mean. But I was always there for her, being her voice of reason, calming her down, stopping the mean streak and keeping her on the right track, she never ever got upset with me, I always had her back and she had mine, she even lived with me for a few months after a bad breakup etc etc.

Anyways fast forward to our mid-twenties, she had since moved to a new town and we didn't see each other all that often anymore but we could always pick up like it was yesterday. She seems to have turned her life around, found a good guy who makes really good money, seems very happy and is getting married, which is awesome. She asked me over coffee to be her maid of Honor, and as most of you will guess this is where it all goes downhill.

My first mistake was thinking I could have a rational conversation with her about the topic. (Keep in mind this is the shortened version of a long discussion we had:) Due to working full time, being in university full time and selling my current house etc I told her that I would love to be her maid of Honor but was unsure of her expectations and I wasn't sure I would be able to commit enough time and money to be a good maid of Honor for her. She told me that she didn't want a party or anything, was having a small. Wedding and just wanted someone to be there for her on her big day, so I said that that's sounds perfect and I of course would help her as much as I could etc etc. We finish our coffee and part ways seemingly on the same page about everything.

Long story short, she messaged me the next day and told me that she didn't think I should be her maid of Honor, and that I guess we aren't that good of friends anymore, along with some other very mean things... Ouch. I chose not to push the subject and apologized for upsetting her, and just told her I will do whatever she prefers since I didn't want to upset her further. I haven't heard from her since...

While I know she is being childish about the whole thing (it's what she does), there is nothing I can do to change her mind or opinion, it really does hurt.

TLDR: Hesitated accepting maid of honor roll. Wanted to know brides expectations but apparently I am just an awful human being....

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