That’s great it worked out for you! My husband and I have done long distance for other reasons during our relationship and marriage and we will not be doing it again (when we have a choice, which military deployment will not be a choice). We also have a baby a two dogs so me leaving quite literally makes no sense. Equality is also top in my marriage. Its very judgmental of you to assume that it is not when you know nothing about me? Unfortunately in my 4 months of my husband being in the military, critical and judging spouses have been very common somehow. I hope you can gain a more positive view of people in the future, it seems like your cynicism is very strong!