I am an athletic Caucasian guy that is currently using an online dating site. I thought back over the 50 or so women I have reached out to on there so far, and found only one black woman. I wondered for a moment if this was a "me" problem, but then I remembered two things. First of all, there just are not that many black folks where I am (Tahoe region), and the ones that are local tend to be bigger women, and not athletic, for some reason.
The one local black woman that I did reach out to is a former WNBA athlete, is extremely tall, and said that she doesn't care about height. I am well under 6 feet, and told her that she should rock the highest heels she has whenever she feels like it because I would get a kick out of it every time, but never heard back from her. I like to think that's because she found an extremely kind and super tall guy to spend some time with.
FWIW, online dating is difficult for all of us. As a guy I know that my messages, no matter how thoughtful or well written, are floating in a giant see of shitty ones that a friend of mine once told me, "... don't make me feel special." By the time someone even sees my message (which only active subscribers can do, btw), there is a good chance that they are not in a good frame of mind to receive it anyway.
Out of those women that do respond to me, or the few that initiate contact, around 90% are either mean spirited, drastically scattered, or are just not very intelligent. This means that I can put in some work, and wait a week or two to hear back, only to be disappointed most of the time. It is definitely harder than I thought it would be. The worst part is coming across a profile of someone that I am deeply interested in, one of those that I instinctively know would be a "plug and play" long term partner, and then seeing the message that it took me two days and three tries to write go unread for weeks and weeks, because they have already burned out and left the service behind.
One thing that I discovered through experimentation is that sex definitely sells. Despite being an active guy with a good income, calm disposition and welcoming profile, I had difficulty gaining much interest for several weeks. Last week I uploaded a picture of my best asset, my core muscles, when I was a little sweaty and pumped up. Holy shit... overnight I had as many messages as I normally get in a week, and in the few days since then my level of interactivity through the site has quadrupled. This seems to have affected women from all walks of life, from a late 20s hairdresser that keeps asking about my dogs, to a late 40s PhD with a weekend home in Tahoe that wants to have a meal with me later this week.
Perhaps it's time for more cleavage, or showcasing that flat tummy, for you?