I have a male friend who I will call "Bob" in this post. So anyway, Bob has done some misogynistic things in the past.
Some examples:
He touched me inappropriately as a part of a joke. He immediately stopped when I told him to, and apologized afterwards.I had sex with him one time and it was really bad. He complained that I refused to have sex with him again. He claimed that he is apparently "actually really good" and "could do better if you give me another shot."He is jealous when I go on dates with other men, or talk about other people in a romantic or sexual context.Driving a car and his male friend, was in the passenger's seat. His male friend cat-called a woman while they were driving on the Highway. Bob ignored this, not willing to confront his friend.
Bob supported Donald Trump during the election. Bob did not support Donald Trump's exist policies, but rather he IGNORED the sexist polices. Bob failed to prioritize the rights of women over lower taxes.
After Bob touched me inappropriately as joke, I told him that I refuse to be friends with misogynists. He made a promise to me to try to be a better feminist. About a month ago, after the incident of him allowing his friend to cat-call a woman, I told Bob that he needs to put in more effort to be a better feminist.
As a means to get him to learn about and fully understand feminism, I asked him if he could do on essay (about 2 pages) on the topic of feminism. He agreed. For the next 3 weeks, I would ask him every other day or so how his progress is on the essay. He kept telling me that he has not started it yet but plans to start it soon. I asked him to show me even a few sentences or an outline, so that I can see he is actually doing it. He kept telling me that he will start it later that day or the next day.
Eventually I got pissed off that he was not taking me seriously, and I told him that I will not talk to him until he presents me with the essay he promised (I gave him an email that he can send a completed draft to.)
TLDR: I have a male friend who has done misogynistic things in the past, and I want to make him into a good feminist.
My question to you ladies: Can a man ever learn to be a good feminist and be worthy of your friendship?