The only thing her profile said was that she was bored.

Yeah, I’m the same way. I often have to say no to my 2 y/o, and he’s really not even verbal yet, but his speech comprehension is EXTREMELY advanced, and he deserves an explanation. It doesn’t always help, because he’s 2 and he doesn’t always comprehend why and how certain things are dangerous, but I still think he is entitled to more than just yelling, “NOOOO!” My mom always criticizes me for “negotiating with a 2 y/o,” but to me he is still a person who deserves respect and consideration. She says that I’m creating a bad precedent and he will think everything is a negotiation, and sometimes you don’t have the time or patience to explain why, and he just needs to be satisfied with a simple, curt, “No!” That’s probably true, but I believe he will be much less likely to be compliant and accept a singular, curt, “No!” if I’m doing it arbitrarily and unnecessarily all the time to try to set a precedent. My parents and grandparents also tell me I need to say, “No,” more often, even when it isn’t necessary, just so he gets used to hearing it and accepting it. I also disagree with that. The funny thing is, my dad was the main parent, and he always gave me reasons and explanations, and always said, “Yes,” whenever he could remotely justify a, “Yes,” so I was more understanding and accepting of him saying it, even when he didn’t give me a thorough explanation. Because I knew he always tried to say, “Yes,” whenever possible, and because I knew he always had to reasons for, “No,” based on prior experiences, I was more likely to trust it and accept it. Sometimes I would still put up resistance with him, but not much, and not nearly as much as with my mom. My mom said, “No,” all the time just as a default answer because she thought we needed to get used that answer in life, and she also would say it without good reasons. That’s why I felt the need to negotiate. I feel like my son has gotten a lot better at accepting, “No,” just in the last couple of months because even he is starting to pick up that Mom tries to say, “Yes,” whenever possible, and when I do say, “No,” I say it for a reason, and it really does have to be a, “No.”

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