Orgasms/sexual 'performance' in women in the LS

  1. Fucking never. NOPE%

  2. One. Occasionally twice. Once, 11.

  3. Pressssurreeeeeeee. And fucked up as it may be... sometimes I like to save it. Totally stupid idea because I am not good at verbalising what I need in a sexual situation, so sometimes I miss out (working on it!). It used to bother me and I felt really paranoid about it, now I know it's normal and I really don't care - I have a fun time anyway. And of course... sometimes I just feel a little bit guilty.

  4. Fuck no. I want to, sometimes, but I am determined to be myself - and that includes not pretending that something gives me orgasms when it doesn't. I can have an awesome time without orgasming at all, as well - so I don't see the need.

  5. My husband does, because he knows me, and I let go with him on certain levels, one of which is my noise level (lol). My other partner is still new and in that awkward phase (wave I know you are stalking me, weirdo) where embarrassment is still a factor, so.. sometimes (but he likes to know), and the only other swinging partners that I've orgasmed with have been repeat offenders, and yes they have known mainly due to it being an MFM and I don't have any finesse about volume in that situation.

  6. Oh yes. Many things. Many awful, twisted, lovely things. I don't often tell them about it, because I find it intensely personal and more on an emotional level than a sexual one. I prefer it to be a bit more organic. There are a few things I just don't like to share...much ;)

I think the main thing is just that it is perfectly normal. It's normal to be anxious, or be totally into it but for some reason.. it just doesn't happen. It does not make you desirable, it does not mean you are less fun. Just own it and be upfront about having had a great time. Most of the girls will talk with you about it if you just hit it straight on, and you will find heaps of them totally understand the problem.

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