I recognize my personality is flawed. I'm a virgin. I'm not a misogynist or a misanthrope, so I don't consider myself an incel. I'm insecure and asocial- so I don't make new friends, let alone get laid. Not everyone has depression (mood disorder) but, all people experience depression (sadness) periodically. The severity of mental illness varies greatly. I consider myself severely mentally ill, and there are others worse than me. I will share my psychiatric diagnosis as an example, and the rough percentage these conditions occur in the general population. Major depressive disorder (3%) Autism spectrum disorder (1%) Borderline personality disorder (1.6%) and Avoidant personality disorder (2.5%). My point is that developing desirable traits such as being- charismatic, humorous, smart, open, honest, kind and mature- would take years of work for some people. Even if we manage to develop these desirable traits, it would be more difficult than for neurotypicals and we'd still be years behind developmentally. Right, I'm going off Reddit to try change years of ingrained thoughts and behaviours.