Our daughter (14) is watching porn. I'm not sure if I should tell my wife, because she'd handle it horribly.

Option 2. But indirectly. I'd make some research of less toxic ways of satisfying her curiosity.. like erotic novels and things that can sparkle her imagination without being invasive like porn. Thing is, you providing this kind of material is a bit weird. But if you "hide" some books -or whatever you find appropriate- to let her find them on her own, could achieve the purpose without intruding her privacy, since that's what's the whole issue is: She needs her privacy.

Be aware this kind of conversations could make her feel very ashamed and the shame could easily cloud your message. Be creative, "hide" information and exploration material for her to find, and explain her how to be careful with her search history since everyone is using the same device. You can talk to her about sexuality without letting her know you know she watched porn, maybe watch a movie together like American pie and make comments about how sexist the whole sex culture is. She might remember that next time she watches porn.

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