I overheard my fiancee telling her friends that my penis look's like a "little boy's"

I know what she said is insanely cruel and no way to talk about the man you love/ your future husband, and I’m not excusing it whatsoever, but from what I’ve gathered from your post, there are a few more things to consider. It sounds like she genuinely loves you. You’ve been together in a good serious relationship for a while I assume since you’re engaged and living together- correct me if I’m wrong. If she’s been with you for a long time, agreed to marry you, was so happy you proposed that she cried, and has told you she enjoys your sex life, and understands and supports your insecurities, I think that is a bigger deal than one cruel thing she said while blowing off steam to her friends. She shouldn’t be making fun of you, and she shouldn’t be saying that to her friends. I don’t think she’d ever say that to you though from what your post says. It sounds like she does enjoy your sex life and doesn’t want you to feel bad about yourself. If she’s a good partner and person and isn’t like using you for money or something, I don’t see how she could lie to your face about enjoying all aspects of your relationship and loving all of you. I think most people would cut things off relatively quickly if they weren’t happy with the physical aspect of a relationship, much less get all the way to being engaged and being excited to spend the rest of your lives together. What she said is a very mean thing to say especially about your own future husband, but I’m sorry... I really am and I don’t mean this negatively even though it inherently sound negative...depending on the size of a penis, it either fits into the average physical appearance of a young boy’s appendage or the average grown man’s appendage, so yes, in some ways if a man has a penis less than the average size, sometimes it could look like what she said. I think for her to put it that way is really messed up. If it’s attached to an adult, it’s a grown man’s penis. I don’t care what size it is, if you’re a grown man with a penis, your penis is a grown man’s penis. That being said, appearance and size are absolutely not everything. You can enjoy a wonderful sex life with any size penis. It sounds like she does enjoy her sex life with you generally speaking. I know that insecurity has to be such a source of pain because of how much emphasis society places on size. But society is stupid. And I know it must hurt that much more that that’s what you heard her talking badly about. I think you should absolutely talk to her. Tell her you heard it and how it made you feel. Hopefully her response is that she feels bad, is very apologetic, understanding, and learns from it that she should never disrespect and talk about you that way. If that’s not her response, this becomes an even more serious problem. But if she does respond remorsefully and in a supportive way, I think that this shouldn’t be a thing that tears your entire relationship apart and prevents you from spending your life with your soulmate if that’s who she is. I wish you the best. You absolutely deserve time to yourself, and hopefully if she realizes what’s going on, she’ll give you space to be away from her because you’re hurt. I know things like this are so much harder in quarantine. Hope things turn out as well as they can.

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