Move past the text ones, steer conversations away from sexual stuff, and for the love of yourself, do not bring someone to your house or go to their house if you don't want to have sex.

Now before someone says, "Well /u/malcolm_miller , going to someone's house doesn't mean you owe them sex." No, it doesn't and I didn't say that. When you put yourself in a more intimate environment, you're building up this false sense of intimacy, and it leads to a higher-likelihood of sex and false securities.

One of the things my therapist made a good point on is that I have a tendency to conflate security with physical interactions. There's no correlation at all though, it's conjecture.

Put yourself in control, don't put yourself in situations that facilitate intimacy until you're ready for it. If the guy doesn't respect your boundaries then "bye Felicia."