Ah. That's how I know I'm old. I've heard the term but just wasn't interested enough to look it up.

Also, geez. I remember those days. There were long periods of my life where I was involuntarily celibate. It's a very sad and lonely existence. I think what got me out of it was a few things: 1. I fixed whatever I could about my looks. I used to wear pants that didn't fit me and I wasn't taking care of my health properly. 2. I read The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. I didn't take the book as gospel, nor as an instruction manual. But it broke some of my perceptions about things and gave me the confidence to try going about the idea of dating with a new mindset. 3. I made a clear list of what I thought made me worth it to get to know, and made a list of qualities I wanted my ideal to possess. 4. I played the numbers game. I went out as much as possible and made sure not to get serious until I felt deeply she was what I was looking for.

I've been married for ten years now. There are still long bouts of involuntary celibacy!