But nobody mentioned any misunderstanding. I know exactly what the speaker was saying and so did the person replying to them. The question is purely whether it's an appropriate way to say that thing. My unequivocal desire is to leave language as wide open as possible so long as someone speaks truth from kindness. Clearly many here agree with me, although I understand others disagree.

I find it legitimately baffling that so much online autistic discourse is caught up in correct phrasing or tone, which is something most of us are told off for our whole lives for getting wrong even when we're saying something true with no malice in our hearts. I cannot understand why an autist would ever want more of these arbitrary rules we suck at.