There's no 'right' or 'wrong' -- your reaction may be different than someone else's and both of you have a right to your feelings. This is why we insist on 'from the I'. A better way forward on this comment may be discussing how you dealt with a similar situation and how it made you feel, how you dealt with those feelings, what you did, etc.

Seeing a lot of “the partner ignored the one request so its okay to be mad” …but it was wrong to make the request in the first place. Alcoholism is solely the alcoholic’s responsibility.

These kind of absolute opinions on others' posts and behavior aren't allowed here. Would you mind changing your comment to comport with the rules?