There's a balance to be struck and I'll give two examples, my cousins who I'll call Chris and Jake. I think they're two people that I'd prefer not to be like.

My cousin Jake is a typical married dude. Beer gut, balding, flabby. Three kids. Jake doesn't talk about much besides that one time he got really drunk in college, or that other time he went to that party high out of his mind his sophomore year. Anything that ever comes out of his mouth is a story that takes place during his college days and it always involves alcohol or marijuana.

The problem is Jake is horribly out of shape, he lives a painfully average life. He doesn't have any hobbies, doesn't read any books, and you can't talk about anything with him besides women, alcohol and weed. It seems like his late teens to early 20s were the height of his life, and now he's just coasting. Don't be like Jake.

Chris is my other cousin, Chris makes great money and is the CEO of his own business at the age of 30. He's like a celebrity in his industry, is highly respected and is constantly going upward with his business. Unlike Jake, Chris can talk with you about interesting things, he knows how to tear apart and work on anything mechanical, and he builds firearms for fun.

Chris though, is incredibly socially awkward, and there seems to be something missing. Chris did go to college and got a degree, but he never did much during that period of his life. Never went to a single party at his university, never drank, and any time you can get him to talk about his college years, they don't seem to be filled with anything but studying and going to class. Chris is also a bit of a loner. He doesn't seem to have any really close friends or anyone that he built long term connections with from that era.

Basically, my cousins are two extremes, don't be to much like either.