hey sister! to start, I want to say that I have no advice. I have no idea what to tell you, since there are a number of things happening in your life now. warning: wall o text. sorry.

on paper, I'm in a very similar situation-- PCOS, ADHD, and a 6 year relationship. it's fucking difficult to handle so many emotions/ thoughts/ everything at the same time on top of taking care of a household and staying on top of basically everything. every day feels nuts but when my SO asks me what I did I'm like "uhh.. I think I started laundry. shit I didn't put it in the dryer." because that's all I can remember.

ANYWAY. are you on a hormonal birth control pill? those can seriously fuck up your moods. one made me a possessive psycho of my SO and another made me suicidal. are you on an androgen blocker or do you need to be on one? I am significantly less angry in general since going on one. temper is still there though.

do you have anything going on for your anxiety? can you pinpoint what's causing it and treat that? the person who prescribes your stims, are they someone you can talk to about issues with anxiety? also, vyvanse (I think) is known to give problems with mood and mood swings. sometimes this wears off after a while, and sometimes it doesn't. ask your doc about it.

when it comes to arguments with your SO, try try to get by yourself when they happen, even for just a 1/2 hour to organize your own thoughts. why are you mad? what can you let go? what can he do differently? are you being unreasonable? is he? these are things I need to consider before opening my mouth in an argument, otherwise I dig myself into a crazy hole and that doesn't feel good.

I hope at least one thing can help you, sorry it's so long.