WHY do people HATE fat people?

I wasted so much of my life trying to "be positive" like these people say, and it wasn't until a year or so ago that I realized how wrong that was.

I made the same stupid mistake these people are making everyday and trying to convince others to do the same.

I had severe social anxiety and was fat for years, I couldn't leave my apartment because I was too much of a pussy. But every single day, I tried to "fight" my depression by "being positive".

You just gotta be happy and eventually you will fix your problems, hurr. That's what I used to think, and it's not COMPLETELY wrong. But here's the thing, I was never "happy". I just pretended to be.

I would distract myself from depression to "be happy". It was just a distraction, I used anything to "distract" myself. Food, games, tv, sleep, anything.

It wasn't until I actually gave in to depression that I could finally make change. When I had no desire to do anything, when I felt completely hopeless, and eventually just numb, for days, guess what happened?

The spell was broken, I didn't want to eat. I didn't want to "distract" myself. Nothing mattered anymore, life didn't matter. It was like destroying a castle and standing in the rubble wondering what to do.

But from that place is where I could finally make change, I just started picking up the pieces and building a new castle. But that is what these people are terrified of. I see it in all of them, I've seen in my mom my entire life, even now.

They cling desperately to their fucked up selves and vices and are afraid to face their problems and fix them.

So does fat shaming work? Yes and no. It's what some people actually need, but many obviously won't face it no matter what and will just keep turtling til they die.

This whole "YOU NEED TO BE ACCEPTING AND POSITIVE" is KIND of true, but it's a trap, a flawed premise. It's hard to make change if you won't let go.

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