For me, personally: Therapy and a willingness to talk about how I feel and what I'm going through. My parents were always so caught up in their own problems, it felt like they never had the time or patience to deal with mine. I heard a lot of "You should talk to your mom about that" and "You should tell your dad about that". It felt like neither of them wanted to deal with it, and I didn't want to burden them, so I just put it all away and buried my issues until they became to big to ignore and derailed my whole life. Now, as an adult, I have a hard time asking anyone for help with my mental issues, specially when I'm feeling overwhelmed by my anxiety and panic attacks. What I truly wish I had is someone who would reach out to me and offer the help I can't bring myself to ask for. I wish my parents had been able/willing to do that for me.