People of r/india. Just broke up. Hear a brother out and give advice pls

Dude I'm with you so much on this! My mom is also batshit crazy.

My bf and I've been dating almost 2 years. I've been in the US since I was 10. I grew up here. My bfs sister is settled in the US and we are super close family friends. I always wanted to move to India & when I did in 2015, me and my bf met and hit it off. (He owns a business in India & is settled there.)

I almost immediately (2 months in) let my mom know & world war 3 ensued. She flew down to India faking an illness, and then proceeded to take me to a psychologist. She went to his house & told them I'm an alcoholic who had a lot of bfs and wouldn't come home until 1 am every night. (I do go out on weekends with my friends and do drink - all of which my bf knows.) Family drama with his family ensued.

We still stayed together. At no point did we wanna break up for our families' sakes.

My mom comes back to USA & I stay in India. I then came back to the US a few months later (biggest mistake of my life) thinking if I wanna get married I should convince my mother. Oh good Lord.

She threatens me with suicide every other day. Or then she says since she doesn't want me to live wit the pain of her suicide, she will go an ashramam in the Himalayas. She's so emotionally manipulative. She drives me so crazy. If I stay at home, she yells at me for staying at home. She called up my old friends I don't talk to anymore and told them I'm depressed and totally embarrassed me. When I do go out, she yells at me for going out. It's insane. She drove me so crazy I even cut my wrists. (Not my brightest moment.)

Either way, I finally had enough and told her if she wants to go, pack her bags I'll take her. (and as expected, she didn't have bags packed.) I told her it will always be my boyfriend.

I guess what I'm trying to say with that long story of my life is if your gf knew she wanted to be with you, she would've made that choice. Crazy mother or not.

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