My wife and I were married 2 years with an 11 month old baby girl when I got served with divorce papers. She took our daughter and moved in with her parents. I was completely blind sided because I thought our marriage was fine. Sure we argued occasionally, but who doesn't. I've never so much as raised my voice. How could she do this to our family? Over the next 4 - 6 weeks I read the following books:

Winning your wife back before it's too late If he only knew Love busters The 5 love languages 7 principles for making marriage work

What I learned is, there were a lot of things I could have been doing better. She deserves the best version of me, like when we were dating. I turned away from her and focused on my career and other activities. She didn't feel loved or appreciated. When we did have an argument, I would forget about it the next day. For her it was like armageddon. She tried to tell me she wasnt happy, but I wouldn't listen because I thought we were fine. Eventually, I was able to prove to her I do care and that I'm able to give her what she needs emotionally. I focused on creating positive interactions, and doing what I could to be helpful. She called off the divorce and were currently in the process of getting back together. Interesting fact, 80% of divorces are initiated by women. Rarely has to do with infidelity or abuse. Mostly caused by emotionally unavailable men. To all my brothers out there who want to save their marriage, open a book and change your mind set. It will do wonders for your health, wealth, and all areas of your life.