What do you mean by “fit into society”? I think everyone fits in some kind of way and simultaneously doesn’t fit in. You are always part of society no matter what. But it helps to find like minded people where you belong to increase your happiness.

I mean my wife and I have got good and secure jobs. I like mine, I’ve got great coworkers and clients. She just works, because we need the money, but would rather not work if it would be a possibility. We’ve got two lovely children, one with a mental disorder which is often so exhausting, stressful and from time to time in public embarrassing when he behaves not according to normal expectations. On many evenings we are just exhausted and sometimes feel helpless, even though I would say that we are happy in general. My wife and I have a great marriage and have also have a polyamorous relationship with another married couple... do we fit in society? I don’t know, but among our friends and family we fit in.